Ridding Ourselves of Self-loathing

There are times we wish that we could rid ourselves of certain inadequacies. We are unhappy with how we look. We are unhappy with the circumstances we are in. We are unhappy with the talents that we have. We could go on and on about the ways we each feel unhappy about who we are.


It is very tempting to engage in this idea of self-loathing. When we engage in self-loathing, we often become envious of talents, abilities, looks, and circumstances that others have. We can very easily engage in a comparison battle with others.

To combat this self-loathing and comparison with others, we must remember who created us. We are, in every way, who God has us to be. In all our looks, talents, circumstances, and perceived inadequacies, God did not make a mistake in creating us.

When we are not content with who we are, it is often because we have lost sight of who created us, and the purpose he created us for. God has created us to fulfill the purpose he has planned for us; and this purpose is not contained within ourselves. Instead,  it is contained in God. When we think about ourselves in light of our purpose being contained in God, we should feel a sense of relief from this temptation of self-loathing.

George MacDonald puts it much more poetically:

“I would rather be what God chose to make me than the most glorious creature that I could think of; for to have been thought about, born in God’s thought, and then made by God, is the dearest, grandest, and most precious thing in all thinking.”

This quote ought to stop us in our self-loathing tracks. Think about what it means to not only have been thought about, but born in God’s thought, and then made by God for God’s purpose. It is a profound idea.

It’s an idea that should take the focus off of us, and put it on God. It should bring us to a place of worship.

“For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
How precious to me are your thoughts, God!
How vast is the sum of them!” – Psalm 139

God created us how he wants us. He has put us where he wants us. He has designed us for his purpose. That must be the dearest, grandest, and most precious thought in all thinking.

John Lane is a worldview teacher and curriculum writer at Artios Academies. He has a passion for teaching the next generation to think deeply and live biblically. He currently resides in Atlanta, GA with his wife, Windy, and his daughter, Riley.